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Happiness hacks

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Being happy with depression/anxiety/PTSD/OCD takes practice and effort. Even when the worst is over you know the dark cloud might pop back so it’s best to ward off negativity with proactive “make yourself happy and appreciate things” tricks.

Making a list of things to be grateful about may not seem appropriate when you feel like the world is your enemy and that life is less than glorious but actually, being disciplined and making that list can work, although it doesn’t take the chemical imbalance – the illness’ cause away. It can add positives to the apparent sea of negatives though.

Safe.

Have a home.

Loved by family.

Friends and support.

Employed or seeking employment.

Interested in something.

Invested in a hobby.

Not destitute.

Know where to get help.

 

I don’t know whether it’s the same for you but I love effect that the sun has on productivity. Birds singing, bees buzzing, cool drink, laptop and a full on day of writing or reading/research…love it! Summer says “bring it on!”

Obviously being out in the sun (safely) means seratonin production, the happy chemical in your brain, and if you have depression/anxiety you know that all the help you can get is welcome so set to work and seratonin to the max.

Cosy in the winter is good too and working from home I get to wear my smug face as people battle the weather conditions, you know, sat in front of the fire with a hot chocolate, sorry;-)

This took me time to be able to even consider!! Be nice to yourself. Your inner voice can be cruel. That mean voice isn’t the truth, it’s stuck on repeat.

So, you made a mistake at work, pranged your car or forgot to send an e-mail to Aunty Flo…that isn’t the end of the world. You may feel like it is, but the globe will keep on turning and you won’t make it as headline news so please go easy on yourself. You’re human.

Lastly, how often do you congratulate yourself or give yourself a reward?

As part of my CBT therapy about 4 years ago,  my homework for weeks was to enjoy myself ON PURPOSE and until it became a habit. I still do it now, whether it’s a new top, a cream cake, an Animaniacs/Garfield cartoon or an early finish, I treat myself regularly. Why? It feels good.

We often forget ourselves and our contributions as we rush about. Stop, take a moment and say “Good work.” It’s not being boastful or decadent, it’s being nice to your brain, self esteem, confidence and about diminishing stress. Humans are powerful machines, we need to refuel sometimes.

One treat a day can keep negativity at bay.

Happy Wednesday:-) Thanks for reading this.

 

 

 

 

Time travel

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I’ve just left Regency England after a day editing my book (The Royal Race Of 1818) so my mind is more Jane Austen than J.K. Rowling at the moment.

I am loving the history, the learning and writing to editing process, it’s like taking a loosely moulded bob of clay and crafting it with care in to a refined piece that people might just fingers crossed want to spend time with.

Actually, it’s just as well it isn’t clay I am totally rubbish at art – words yes, artistic doodlings and makings uh-oh no no. I admire the people who can.

I’ve been working indoors and it’s so warm and the sun is shining I have been hankering to get outside, you know, to do creativity al fresco but I know me – I’d get out there, think ooh it’s a bit breezy, too hot, the sun’s in my eyes or shhhh pesky kids playing down the road and the distractions would make me want to be inside in peace and solitude. Gotta love being human! So I’ve stayed in to save on movement effort.

Fab news: Banished some old items that reminded me of the era that triggered the OCD and post traumatic stress on Saturday, the refuse/garbage bods will take them away forever tomorrow…seeing them made me really sad but it was cathartic…more of the pain is out of my system. YAY.

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Note to self: I must remember to hydrate…I get engrossed in work and forget that being parched is not a good thing. Thirsssstyyyyyy.

Another note to self: I deserve a cheeky takeaway tonight, I’ve decided.

 

Have a fab week,

Joanne

Snow joke!

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I’m British, that means I’m genetically disposed to discuss the weather…apparently!

 

 

 

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Anyway, here I am in southern England, the sun’s shining timidly and it’s a lovely spring day MEANWHILE my sister has woken up in Canada to a dusting of snow. I know where I’d rather be.

I think I’d:

a. cry

b. retreat to the duvet

c. both of the above, whilst eating a ton of chocolate

 

if I woke up to snow on the 11th May…it’s nearly the longest day of the year…there shouldn’t be snowflakes with the cornflakes!

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Anyway, I’ve had a fab editing my latest book day.

I’ve also decided what my next book will be about and I might just go for a springy stroll later unlike my sister who’ll be snowgliding to work. LOL.

Have a fab day, whatever the weather.

Joanne