Being happy with depression/anxiety/PTSD/OCD takes practice and effort. Even when the worst is over you know the dark cloud might pop back so it’s best to ward off negativity with proactive “make yourself happy and appreciate things” tricks.
Making a list of things to be grateful about may not seem appropriate when you feel like the world is your enemy and that life is less than glorious but actually, being disciplined and making that list can work, although it doesn’t take the chemical imbalance – the illness’ cause away. It can add positives to the apparent sea of negatives though.
Have a home.
Loved by family.
Friends and support.
Employed or seeking employment.
Interested in something.
Invested in a hobby.
Know where to get help.
I don’t know whether it’s the same for you but I love effect that the sun has on productivity. Birds singing, bees buzzing, cool drink, laptop and a full on day of writing or reading/research…love it! Summer says “bring it on!”
Obviously being out in the sun (safely) means seratonin production, the happy chemical in your brain, and if you have depression/anxiety you know that all the help you can get is welcome so set to work and seratonin to the max.
Cosy in the winter is good too and working from home I get to wear my smug face as people battle the weather conditions, you know, sat in front of the fire with a hot chocolate, sorry;-)
This took me time to be able to even consider!! Be nice to yourself. Your inner voice can be cruel. That mean voice isn’t the truth, it’s stuck on repeat.
So, you made a mistake at work, pranged your car or forgot to send an e-mail to Aunty Flo…that isn’t the end of the world. You may feel like it is, but the globe will keep on turning and you won’t make it as headline news so please go easy on yourself. You’re human.
Lastly, how often do you congratulate yourself or give yourself a reward?
As part of my CBT therapy about 4 years ago, my homework for weeks was to enjoy myself ON PURPOSE and until it became a habit. I still do it now, whether it’s a new top, a cream cake, an Animaniacs/Garfield cartoon or an early finish, I treat myself regularly. Why? It feels good.
We often forget ourselves and our contributions as we rush about. Stop, take a moment and say “Good work.” It’s not being boastful or decadent, it’s being nice to your brain, self esteem, confidence and about diminishing stress. Humans are powerful machines, we need to refuel sometimes.
One treat a day can keep negativity at bay.
Happy Wednesday:-) Thanks for reading this.
I’ve had to learn how to think this way…felt I had to reblog it:-)X
I’m writing children’s stories at the moment.
It’s great forgetting the complex difficulties of being a grown up and just having fun writing about things like going to the shop, going to a party, smiling and playing.
My OCD appreciates days like this too.
No pressure, not too emotionally draining and it’s hard to be anxious when you are in a child’s mindset thinking how they think, seeing things for the first time, gently learning the rights and wrongs of life. If adults can be prone to thinking “glass half empty” then children and their imaginations are wired to the positive “glass half full” approach.
Sometimes, I think thatgrown ups would benefit from taking a few minutes each day to just be a big kid…not in an annoying way…but just to watch as a butterfly flits from flower to flower, to appreciate the smell of a freshly baked loaf of bread, an orange as it’s being peeled, to enjoy the feel of the breeze on your face as you run.
You get the idea…to reawaken ourselves to the appeal of things as if they are newly discovered.
And now, I’m going to pretend that I am a superhero cat and save someone.
Come on, join in, you know it sounds like fun!!!